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May. 1st, 2018 @ 06:11 pm Frisian funeral
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Today, we attended the funeral of the father of a friend. It was a two-hour drive (which in the Dutch scale is actually quite long: we literally crossed half the country) to a small village in Friesland — and the weather was dreadful. We feared that we’d have to gather around the grave in the pouring rain, and we prepared by having spare dry socks and shoes in the car. (Klik’s grandmother was very specific: she wanted to be cremated, so that there was no need for us, her children and grand-children, to stand in foul weather around a grave on her behalf…)
The service was in the small village church which had been restored very handsomely indeed. And there were so many people that not everyone fit inside… The mourning card was all in Frisian (the second official language of the Netherlands, and spoken only/mainly in Friesland), and so was the service and even the psalms! I guess it’s to be expected for the funeral of the man who wrote the Frisian dictionary. I could understand some parts: the pastor spoke very clear and (I suspect) a Dutch accent, which certainly helped, but there were also parts that went completely over my head. There were some anecdotes that made people laugh, but I didn’t get any of the jokes…
By the time we stood around the grave, the rain had stopped and the sun broke through.

After the service, we talked a bit with our friend. We were almost the last to leave, and it was kind of late when we got back home. But it was good to be there for him.

Crossposted from my blog. Comment here or at the original post.
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From:borchmadsen
Date:May 1st, 2018 06:51 pm (UTC)
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It was very nice of you to drive two hours (and two back, I'm guessing) to attend. Very nice!
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From:fub
Date:May 2nd, 2018 07:48 pm (UTC)
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Well, it's always fun to take a roadtrip with the two of us, though I had hoped for a better occasion.
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From:changeling72
Date:May 1st, 2018 07:03 pm (UTC)
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Glad to hear it went as well as these things can. I haven’t been to an internment for several years. I nearly tripped and fell into my grandfather’s grave when we threw roses onto the coffin - but my cousin caught me!

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From:fub
Date:May 2nd, 2018 07:57 pm (UTC)
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Oh no! Imagine the scene...
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From:kishenehn
Date:May 1st, 2018 10:03 pm (UTC)
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As funerals go, it sounds like a good one.

How many people still speak Frisian as a primary language? I'm a fan of obscure languages like that.
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From:fub
Date:May 2nd, 2018 07:59 pm (UTC)
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Yes, it was a good, solid farewell.

There are no recent numbers, but in 2004, the estimate was that 440.000 people spoke (a version of) Frisian. That's about half of the population of Friesland. For 350.000 of those, Frisian is their mother tongue.
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From:loputon
Date:May 2nd, 2018 08:57 am (UTC)
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Sounds like a "nice" funeral. You know what I mean, not NICE, but all things considered nice in a way.
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From:fub
Date:May 2nd, 2018 08:00 pm (UTC)
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It was "good", and as nice as can be expected from these things, yes. It was good to lend some moral support to our friend.
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From:ashmedai
Date:May 2nd, 2018 01:33 pm (UTC)
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That was good of you to drive all that way, and I'm sorry for your loss!
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From:fub
Date:May 2nd, 2018 08:02 pm (UTC)
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When Klik's father died, I sent a digital version of the mourning card to the people I played RPGs with, just to keep them updated of what happened. So imagine my surprise to see them at the funeral. That really meant a lot to me, and I am glad I could be there for him in return.
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From:spiral_meter
Date:May 2nd, 2018 07:28 pm (UTC)
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that's good that you were there for your friend.

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From:fub
Date:May 2nd, 2018 08:00 pm (UTC)
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Yes, we were really glad we undertook the trip. It was worth it.
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From:spiral_meter
Date:May 5th, 2018 04:41 pm (UTC)
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HAPPY MUTHAFUCKING BERFDAY. may it be your MIRTHday!

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From:fub
Date:May 5th, 2018 09:04 pm (UTC)
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Thanks! :)
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From:nucleosides
Date:May 4th, 2018 08:41 pm (UTC)
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Sorry for your loss. :(

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From:fub
Date:May 5th, 2018 09:04 pm (UTC)
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Thanks... I never met the good man though, we were just there to support our friend.
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